A Self Development, Mind Body and Spirit How To

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Self Development

Self Development is defined as a deliberate focus by an individual on self-improvement and the self-realisation of their goals and desires. Self Development can be physical, experiential, mental, emotional or spiritual. Self Development is essentially the exploration of self. The Motivation to undertake Self Development begins with a desire to realise our higher selves through transcending the negative qualities and behaviours we have learned and adopted throughout our lives.

Goal Setting

If you don’t know what you want in life then you will never achieve it. If you know what you want from life and you map that out, then you will find a way to work towards the achievement of that goal.

You are far more likely to recognise the things, decisions and opportunities in life that will take you in the direction of your goal. If you do not map out what is required to achieve your goals and desires then it is unlikely you will ever achieve them.

Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction has become a popular theory among self development enthusiasts. The principal is also known as manifestation, and says that your subconscious mind creates your conscious reality. When you focus on a particular train of thought or a sequence of ideas for any period of time it is sometimes difficult to abruptly change the direction you have allowed your thoughts to go. This is because the Law of Attraction is fueling your thoughts with more thoughts consistent with your current train of thinking. It is referred to as ‘staying on topic’ and applies to many things in life, as well as what you are thinking about and who you are involved with.

The Law of Attraction comes in many guises but the principle is the same. Ask, Believe, Receive. “What is all this” you say? First you have to Ask for what you want, then Believe that you will get what you want, and finally Receive what you want.

Unhelpful Thinking?

Modern life is full of demanding people, places and situations. Unhelpful thinking are the thoughts, emotions or feelings that created in response to those demands, and which do not contribute positively to you or your current situation. Unhelpful thinking may be emotions such as depression, anger, sadness or anxiety, or may be over analyse a situation that should be relatively straight forward.

Unhelpful thinking may even be just focusing too much attention on a particular subject or topic which in turn prevents your focusing on something else more important.  The News Media is notorious for promoting unhelpful thinking which is why we recommend undertaking a Media Fast whenever you begin an new Self Development exercise or program.

Positive Thinking

It’s often easy to think that the way we feel is a result of either good or bad things happen that happen to us. But actually, the way we react and think about the things that happen to us is far more important than the events we experience. The things that happen in our lives are not good or bad in themselves; it’s just the way we think and react to them that results in either a positive or negative effect upon us. Positive Thinking isn’t the same as Positive Affirmations.

Positive Affirmations

An Affirmation is similar to a wish, prayer, or goal, only it is more specific and focused. Affirmations can be either Positive or Negative depending on the content of the affirmation and both have similar effects on your conscious and subconscious minds. Affirmations attached to Emotions are best used in conjunction with Creative Visualisation to enhance their effectiveness and give them focus. Affirmations are also best expressed repeatedly in order to highlight their intention to your mind.

Affirmations when done properly, always work

Limiting Beliefs

Belief Patterns and Limiting Beliefs are the core of every person. Our beliefs guide our decisions, actions and behaviour in all areas of our life. They determine what we think is or is not possible and thereby have a direct impact on what we are willing to attempt and our success in life. More often than not beliefs prove to be self-fulfilling prophecies because of the actions that result from them.
Many people never attempt to change their Limiting Beliefs, living with them all their lives. Beliefs are essential to us as individuals, but more often than not it is Limiting Beliefs like nobody likes me or nothing ever goes right for me that govern our lives more so than Positive Beliefs.

Learning and Exercises

Action is the first thing required if you want to achieve success in everything you do. Education is the second essential ingredient to success. Without action and without quality education everything you learn is irrelevant. In order to act on your learning we will give you quotes and words of success from some of the worlds most successful people and action based exercises to help you create your own success.

Animosity Cycle

An Animosity Cycle is a reciprocating cycle of ill will and anti-social behaviour based on mutual and escalating aggression between two or more people.An Animosity Cycle begins with a perceived wrong, either real or unreal, that is experienced by someone and subsequently results in anger and aggression being expressed towards another person. This generates feelings of discontent or anger in the victim who reciprocates with a similar level of aggression.

The Animosity Cycle is intrinsically related to Anger and Aggression. Anger is a typical human response to frustration. It is natural for people to want to get their own way in relation to situations they encounter. Frustration often occurs when people fail to obtain the outcome they desire from a situation. Anger may then be experienced when frustration with the unsatisfactory outcome is encountered.

The Mind

The mind is a tool of the body. What most people do not realise is that the mind is actually subservient to the higher self, but is very hard to switch off. The mind is responsible for all the Self Talk we are subjected to from all the daily input it receives.The mind uses any input given it from the world as fuel for its activities be it news media, physical activity, quiet self contemplation or the affections and attentions from a loved one; the mind uses all our experiences and input as fuel for its activity.

When we provide the mind with fuel that doesn’t further our purpose, goals, desires or other activities in the world, then its activities can have a negative effect on our disposition and view of the world. If we provide it with positive joyful experiences then it will focus on positive activities.

Breathing

Your breath and your mind are intricately connected. Think about the way your breathing is affected when your mind is experiencing something totally unrelated to breathing. To breathe is to live, and without breath there is no life. Not only are the higher animals dependent upon breath for life and health but even the lower forms of animal and plant life must breathe in order to live.

Meditation

Meditation is the practice of focusing your attention to one point of reference and thereby enables a person to enjoy a calm and peaceful state of silence whilst still experiencing acute awareness.In a state of mediation one is able bypass the constant thought afflicting most people that is the result of the conscious minds focus on past and future events. Meditation offers an excellent opportunity for focusing on the now, the present moment, and provides relief from the Fears and Anxieties that are so prevalent in the modern western lifestyle. Meditation is relief from unnecessary conscious thought.

Gratitude

One of the immediate effects of Gratitude is increased clarity of mind. Appreciation and Gratitude provide an individual with a heightened sense of the big picture and place a situation or experience in context with your life experiences and the impact that that may have on others around you.The Effect Gratitude plays in awakening your inner mind and powers cannot be underestimated. Applying the principals of Gratitude to your life and experiences assists in overcoming Limiting Beliefs. Gratitude allows the mind to awaken and expand its sphere of influence as Dr John Demartini refers to it.

Self Esteem

Self Esteem is essential to nearly everything you do. It affects your success in relationships, your family life, leisure activities, work career and life. It affects your behaviour, thinking, and everything you attempt in life. It impacts on everything you want to do in life.

A firm Belief in your capabilities and self confidence is the single most important asset you have as a person. Even with all the resources and skills in the world, a person will fall short of attempting what could be their greatest achievements if they do not have the Self Confidence to attempt what they want in life.

How to Achieve Success

Start here for sure fire tips and tricks to point in you the right direction for finding and achieving what you want from life. When focusing on your success, you need to ask yourself some questions.

• What do you think governs a persons success in life?
• What do you define as success and what would you consider to be a successful life?
• What are the motivators that will drive you to achieve the things you desire in life?

When you can answer these questions, then you can focus on achieving success.

Be Do Have

The principals of Be Do Have focus on cultivating an attitude consistent with your desire. The paradigm is that there are three behavioural models used to describe how people interact with the world and people around them and an individual tends to behave in a manner more towards one model than several.

The Be Do Have paradigm describes, for example, how you need to think you are successful, before you will act successfully and then ultimately attain the success you desire through you actions. You cannot be successful in an endeavour if you don’t think you will attain that success because it will impact negatively on the way you act. It is rare that someone will be categorised as being evenly split between models as essentially the models describe a person’s outlook on life and how they interact with their environment.

This Page Updated 29th October 2011

Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were once only walls